I was listening to the radio the other day and I heard the usual midday banter. On this particular day, the discussion was about The Bachelor. I’ve never watched a full episode of The Bachelor in my life, but just as I was about to switch the radio station, I stopped to listen to the interesting discussion that was taking place. Apparently one contestant on the show, Andi Dorfman, is a lawyer but downplays her smarts by her air-headedness. She actually told the bachelor that she hates to read. What was more shocking to many viewers was that this ditzy woman is actually a successful lawyer. A closing argument she gave during a murder trial has surfaced and it appears that Andi isn’t as dumb as she’d like us to think. The real question that I’m wondering is if and why women, in this day and age, still play dumb to attract and appease men? Are men threatened by intelligent and successful women? I thought in 2014 this question was laughable but perhaps I was wrong? This seems like another case of Legally Blonde. Why would an esteemed lawyer feel the need to belittle her smarts? Well, perhaps Andi actually does HATE to read. [I’m not sure how a person who hates to read becomes a lawyers being that a large chunk of law school involves reading].
Men have voiced that they want a woman who is successful; juggling school and work, leading her own business, or just being focused and making all her dreams happen. But do men want women to be successful only as long as she’s less successful than them? I know there are some men out there that don’t want their woman to make more money than them [baffling right?]. But there are MORE men who yearn for and seek out women who are ambitious and established. Playing dumb may be cute to some men so long as the woman they’re courting isn’t actually dumb. Nothing is more unattractive than someone who lacks intelligence. While the air-headed girl may nab some time with a guy, if she doesn’t bring any mental stimulation to the table, she will be dropped faster than celebs drop baby weight.
I wish women would stop giving the impression that intelligence isn’t beautiful. Young girls don’t want to showcase their smarts because they’re scared they might turn boys off, which is partially true. But while little boys may feel threatened by a woman’s success and intellect, a real man is drawn to it.
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