When is cheating ever okay? Or rather, is cheating okay? I had a discussion tonight about cheating and came to one conclusion: men cheat…a lot. But because men cheat a lot does that mean that women should expect and accept it? A lot of women have this notion that because they are dating or married to prominent men [athletes, musicians, actors, etc.] they should not only accept a cheating man but they should EXPECT it; I was flabbergasted at this idea. Contrary to popular belief, not EVERY man cheats. Some men are perfectly content in their relationships and have no desire to step outside. Women need to stop perpetuating this fallacy that all the men out here are cheating. I don’t think being an athlete or musician makes you more likely to cheat; if a person is going to cheat they will cheat. If the desire is there and an open opportunity presents itself a man will cheat. It doesn’t matter how beautiful you are, how often you cook, and how good you pleasure your man…some men just aren’t made for monogamy. Your occupation has no bearing on whether or not you will cheat. Blue-collar workers cheat just as much as prominent men. The thing with men in the spotlight is that they are exposed to a higher number of women. More women know who Kobe Bryant or Channing Tatum is than the man that works in the post office. Being famous makes you well-known but not necessarily more accessible to women. Women think by being the “perfect woman” you can prevent a man from cheating; you can be the perfect woman but if a man isn’t ready nothing will change that.
The most ridiculous thing in the world is when women try to justify a man who cheats. My thing is if you’re okay with being with a man who’s not interested in monogamy then it should be no problem for him to have other women. But if you want a man that will be faithful to you, you shouldn’t put up with infidelity. Women rationalize cheating with how much a man makes and how famous he is. Why do women have this ‘don’t ask don’t tell’ mantra when it comes to cheating? There is a man out there who will be faithful to you so you shouldn’t have to put up with being someone’s number 2. If you can’t have it all why settle for being a side chick? You deserve more than that. I refuse to be with a man who cheats on me. Fidelity is something that’s important to me so I refuse to accept a man that won’t remain faithful to me. I don’t care if he’s a basketball player, rapper, or the President of the United States. There’s a man out there who will be faithful to me so I refuse to put up with anything less. If you don’t want to be a man’s number 2 (or 3) then don’t; stop putting up with men who don’t make you their one and only.